"What if I am not as good as what I think I am," my client said as she sat staring at her hands in her lap. "What if you are fantastic at what you do," I said.
We both sat in silence for what seemed ages staring into each other's computer screens. With a slight smile on her face, she said "Well I guess I will never know unless I try". "Exactly," I said back to her "one of the hardest things that you can do in business is to get out of your own way and stop judging yourself"
It's not the fear of other people judging you it's judgement of yourself.
As a business coach with over 25 years of experience, one of the biggest challenges I have helped my clients with is self-judgment. Over those 25 years, nearly every one of my clients (and there have been many) had an amazing talent to share with the world. Some of my clients, unfortunately, due to their negative perceptions of themselves got in their own way and never reached their full potential.
I am glad to say most of my clients dug deep and did the work.
They set up a framework for success by focusing on their why and the passion they had for their business by making work that matters. They committed to the journey and played the long game with a clear business pathway to guide them along the way.
They developed business rituals with a focus on the hero of their story, the customer, not themselves. They built self-trust through setting goals both personally and in their business and worked every day towards achieving them.
I am happy to say the client at the beginning of this blog did so too.
She did more than try. She committed to doing the work by setting up her framework for success and committed to the journey. She is achieving her business goals and most importantly trusts herself.